13. What do you do when your child is melting down?



When putting together this episode of the podcast, I reflected on what my late husband and I had said we wanted for our children when they became adults.

We wanted them to be happy, healthy, and able to afford the toys they would want to buy. We wanted our sons and our daughter to be confident and kind, and we wanted them to know how to cook, to do their laundry, and to change a flat tire. We were not perfect parents, but as I watch my now adult children, I know we gave them a firm foundation and the skills they needed to become contributing members of society. In short, we raised emotionally competent people.

Emotional Competence is the focus of part one of today’s podcast. Positive discipline is the focus of part two. Each guest is an author, and each guest will give us tips on how to raise well-adjusted human beings.

Our first guest is Doug Noll, the author of the book De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less (Simon & Schuster, September 2017), which was the winner of the Book Excellence Award for 2017.

I invited him to be a guest because of his passion for teaching parents, grandparents and educators why understanding child development and using appropriate discipline strategies lead to children becoming resilient, emotionally competent adults.

For his innovative work, Doug Noll has been voted as one of the Best Lawyers in America since 2005, by US News & World Report and has been recognized since 2006 as a Northern California Super Lawyer. He is listed in the Who’s Who of International Commercial Mediators. He has been honored as Lawyer of the Year in 2014 by Best Lawyers in America. In 2014, Doug was honored as a Purpose Prize Fellow by Encore.org. In 2018, Doug was named the Distinguished Neutral of the Year by The National Academy of Distinguished Neutrals. Along with his colleague Laurel Kaufer, Doug Noll was named California Attorney of the Year in 2012 for their pro bono Prison of Peace project.

De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less will teach you how to calm an angry, upset person of any age while remaining centered and calm. You will also learn how to calm yourself down quickly and efficiently. You will be able to take insults, provocations, and disrespect from others without losing your cool. You will be able to stand in the presence of very strong emotions and say exactly the right thing in exactly the right way in exactly the right moment. In short, you will gain an immense amount of control over your emotional life. You will learn how to solve a problem without anger. This will give you a power you never imagined possible.

De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less: Noll, Douglas E.: 0001582706557: Amazon.com: Books

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/
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Twitter https://twitter.com/dougnoll
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtAHXdBT1Y0Pl7SGrM_HcFw
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Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.html

Our second guest is Joyce Fields, an author who has combined her passion for writing with her mission to inspire people to make the world a better place. The mother of two sons, eight grandchildren and four great grandchildren shares with us the 12 “ingredients” she says families need to raise great children. The book Her book is Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising Great Kids, draws upon the values her family has passed down from generation to generation.

Joyce Fields was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. She now resides in Arcadia, California. She has been in love with reading and writing her entire life. She coupled her passion for writing with her mission to inspire people to make the world a better place, resulting in her writing eight books and sharing inspirational messages with various audiences.

Background
Joyce started her career as a stenographer at a major utility company, working her way up through supervisor of word processing, then as the office manager for an automotive advertising agency, and, lastly, as an executive assistant at a large non-profit health maintenance organization. She is also a professional proofreader. She wrote her first book, Line of Serenity, in 1997. Being the oldest of seven, she wanted to capture the way their parents raised them so that the way they did it would not be lost. Many people read the manuscript and told her that she should publish it. The book covers 1944 through 1977 and includes family recipes and photographs. Recipes, because food was–and still is–an important part of her family’s fabric; photographs, so that descendants can see what their ancestors looked like and be amazed to find a resemblance to an ancestor. You do not have to be a family member to enjoy this book! For older readers, it is a walk down memory lane; for younger readers, it provides a peek into the past. Joyce gets her inspiration from living and observing life. In addition to Line of Serenity, she has written books about parenting, which is also available in Spanish, relationships, children’s fiction, children’s non-fiction, bullying, health, spirituality, and the power and simplicity of quotes. One of her quotes was chosen from more than 5,000 entries and appears in the 2013 Women’s Advantage Calendar.

Web site: www.Goodshortbooks.com
E-mail: goodshortbooks@yahoo.com
BLOG: Lineofserenity.wordpress.com
Books on Amazon

The Marshmallow Experiment and the Power of Delayed Gratification (jamesclear.com)

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